Rachel Allish Zamora

Never Judge Another Mother’s Highchair

We returned from the zoo to find bananas. Everywhere. All over my daughter’s highchair. Smeared across the curtain to it’s left. And flaking off the wall directly behind it.

My mind flashed back to my single years, seven years ago. I couldn’t help but cry — and immediately call the friend in this story.

Seven years ago I found myself in a similar situation. I was babysitting a friend’s young son, and to my horror, I found my nightmare awaited me in the kitchen.

A white highchair sent my OCD-like tendencies into full swing. There it was in all of it’s ‘I don’t care what you think’ glory.

It was covered in crusty ravioli, cheerios, and some kind of sticky goo. I didn’t dare sit the little boy in it. I put him in a pack n’ play in front of the tv while I proceeded to clean the dirty thing.

And boy did I clean it. All the while, a single; childless; 18-year-old Rachel came up with all of the excuses why it was dirty — because of course, I ‘knew’ them.

These thoughts and others circled my mind as judgment mounted:

‘She has time to do her makeup and work out, but can’t clean this mess up…’

‘How can anyone live like this…’

‘This is disgusting…’

‘Is she blind? She definitely needs glasses…’

‘How could you miss something like this…’

‘It’s not like she has a real job, why wouldn’t someone make time to clean this up…’ 

‘How could anyone let their child sit in such horrendous filth?!…’ 

I know, it’s ugly. Actually, it’s disgusting. It makes me ill to think of it now. My heart was one big, heaping mess of judgmental ‘I will never be that kind of mother.’

This evening. I ate my words.

Today, my daughter’s highchair was filthy. Why? The answer is simple. And one I never thought of while I judged others:

I was busy making memories.

I neglected my home, because I was too ‘busy’ making memories with my little family.

And I don’t regret it. I don’t regret it one bit.

Houses are empty shells. Highchairs will need to be cleaned; and recleaned. Laundry will need to be done; and redone. Never allow your appearance, home, or even your child’s behavior to define you. Jesus Christ died so that He alone could determine and attribute your worth.

Forget the dishes and make time to be silly with your children. Leave the laundry and kiss your husband. Be thankful for the little messes in life — they remind us that we’re alive and still in need of Christ.

Mothers weren’t created to be God-almighty. Mothers were created to be daughters dependent on an almighty God. We were NEVER meant to do it on our own, or in our own strength. He is good. He is gracious. He is strong enough to be our strength. And in Him, motherhood is a beautiful, beautiful thing. Do not attempt it alone.

So go ahead and judge moms for their ‘highchairs’ and any other form their ‘failures’ may take on. Irregardless of what sparks your judgement — just know that you’ll most likely eat your words later — and be glad that you did — because you were too busy making memories to be perfect. 

“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults – unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part.” Matthew 7:1-5

 

My Favourite Accessory

get 10% off my favourite accessory: a custom gold bar accessory. // rachelaz

While our daughter was in the NICU, Daphne, with DM Charm Co. made me a gorgeous, custom “Finnley” necklace. It was such a sweet reminder of my daughter, and it was always so nice to wear our baby girl’s name around my neck. Even though she’s out of the hospital now, I still love my little gold bar necklace. It’s quickly become my favourite accessory. Dress it up or down; it’s an awesome no-brainer for any outfit, and it goes with everything!

Check out Daphne’s shop. And now through May 31st, get 15% percent off your order with promo code: “FINNLEY15.” I just love how you can personalize your pieces with whatever you like — your anniversary, a loved one’s birthday, names, or initials. And they make gifts that much more personal.

Happy shopping mamacitas!

xoxo

    – RACHEL

 

gold bar necklace: dm charm co., c/o etsy. // sweater: h&m. //

The Diaper-Rash Fighting Secret

I think one of the most common fears amongst mommas is the very common occurrence of diaper rashes. While we were in the NICU with Finnley, the nurses shared their age-old secret that helps fight and prevent diaper rashes. Thanks to this wonderful little tip, our little four-month old has never had a diaper rash. 

Praise God for tried-and-true tips and happy babies!

xoxo,

    – RACHEL

THE SECRET: It’s as simple as using AQUAPHOR by Eucerin ($6/ea).

WHAT IT DOES: Aquaphor acts as a protective barrier. Commonly used to protect skin from chaffing when running, biking, swimming or exercising. **Please Note: It is only a preventative measure for diaper rash, not a healing ointment for diaper rash.**

HOW TO USE: After each diaper change, apply a dime-sized amount of Aquaphor on your baby’s bumbum and diaper regions. **Please Note: For external use only.**

OTHER USES: Great to help heal eczema, bug bites, dry/cracked skin (especially due to a runny nose), baby acne, and 100% safe to use on your little one!

BUY IT:
We purchased a 14oz jar of Aquaphor ($13) for our changing table, best price via amazon:

keep your baby's bumbum happy. Learn the diaper-rash fighting secret. tried and true and proven to protect your little one. rachelaz.com
And 1.75oz tubes of Aquaphor ($6/ea) for each of our diaper bags, and vehicles, best price via amazon:
keep your baby's bumbum happy. Learn the diaper-rash fighting secret. tried and true and proven to protect your little one. rachelaz.com